{"id":10939,"date":"2022-09-09T08:59:14","date_gmt":"2022-09-09T13:59:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/?p=10939"},"modified":"2023-08-09T09:54:22","modified_gmt":"2023-08-09T14:54:22","slug":"are-you-sabotaging-your-own-happiness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/are-you-sabotaging-your-own-happiness\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Sabotaging Your Own Happiness?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"bsf_rt_marker\"><\/div>\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"10939\" class=\"elementor elementor-10939\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5c62800 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"5c62800\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fc96dee elementor-widget elementor-widget-template\" data-id=\"fc96dee\" 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\/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-45247c6 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"45247c6\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-9258900\" data-id=\"9258900\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4d26459 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4d26459\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Aren't We All?<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c63faf7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c63faf7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>I won&#8217;t bury the lead here.\u00a0 The answer is YES.\u00a0 We all sabotage our happiness to some degree. So the important questions are:<\/p><ul><li><h4>How is this happening?<\/h4><\/li><li><h4>How do I stop?<\/h4><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3ecd5d2 elementor-section-content-middle elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3ecd5d2\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-66 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-9ca330c\" data-id=\"9ca330c\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dc3d674 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"dc3d674\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Happiness Simplified<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d48d607 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d48d607\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>We don&#8217;t need behavioral scientific proof to know that happiness is a <em>state of mind<\/em>.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p><h4>We&#8217;re happy when we spend:<\/h4><ul><li><h4>More time feeling positive<\/h4><\/li><li><h4>Less time feeling negative\u00a0<\/h4><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-33 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-d9603cf\" data-id=\"d9603cf\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1ff5607 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"1ff5607\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"600\" height=\"452\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/poairiciry.jpg\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-10942\" alt=\"Positivity\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/poairiciry.jpg 600w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/poairiciry-300x226.jpg 300w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/poairiciry-150x113.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" title=\"\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-bed7c74 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"bed7c74\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-690b2d7\" data-id=\"690b2d7\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f69a5fc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f69a5fc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>As with so many simple concepts, It&#8217;s not easy.\u00a0 The solution lies in developing and maintaining your <strong><em>Mental Fitness<\/em>.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/p><h4>Getting Started<\/h4><p>A starting point toward developing your <em>Mental Fitness<\/em> is gaining awareness of how we negatively judge.\u00a0 \u00a0More specifically, how we negatively judge.\u00a0 Negative judgements come in three categories.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p><ul><li><strong>Negatively Judging Ourselves<\/strong>,<\/li><li>Negatively Judging <strong>Others<\/strong><\/li><li><strong style=\"background-color: white; color: black;\">Negative judgement of circumstances<\/strong><span style=\"background-color: white; color: black;\">.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"background-color: white;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">For this post let&#8217;s focus on negatively judging our situation.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5937257 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"5937257\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Judging Your Circumstances<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3e6de93 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3e6de93\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>How would you fill in the blank below?<\/p><blockquote><h4>&#8220;I will be happy when ______________&#8221;<\/h4><\/blockquote><p>What happens when you fill in this blank?\u00a0 You&#8217;re working on the assumption that the item in the blank is your condition for being happy. You&#8217;re making a negative judgement about your current situation.\u00a0<\/p><h3>Check Up From the Neck Up<\/h3><p>When you find yourself creating your condition for happiness, ask yourself&#8230;<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1622033 elementor-icon-list--layout-traditional elementor-list-item-link-full_width elementor-widget elementor-widget-icon-list\" data-id=\"1622033\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"icon-list.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul class=\"elementor-icon-list-items\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<li class=\"elementor-icon-list-item\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-icon-list-icon\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<svg aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"e-font-icon-svg e-fas-frown\" viewBox=\"0 0 496 512\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\"><path d=\"M248 8C111 8 0 119 0 256s111 248 248 248 248-111 248-248S385 8 248 8zm80 168c17.7 0 32 14.3 32 32s-14.3 32-32 32-32-14.3-32-32 14.3-32 32-32zm-160 0c17.7 0 32 14.3 32 32s-14.3 32-32 32-32-14.3-32-32 14.3-32 32-32zm170.2 218.2C315.8 367.4 282.9 352 248 352s-67.8 15.4-90.2 42.2c-13.5 16.3-38.1-4.2-24.6-20.5C161.7 339.6 203.6 320 248 320s86.3 19.6 114.7 53.8c13.6 16.2-11 36.7-24.5 20.4z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-icon-list-text\">How do I feel while that condition is absent?  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