{"id":14699,"date":"2023-10-12T06:07:00","date_gmt":"2023-10-12T11:07:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/?p=14699"},"modified":"2024-10-17T13:39:54","modified_gmt":"2024-10-17T18:39:54","slug":"develop-gravitas-for-executive-presence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/develop-gravitas-for-executive-presence\/","title":{"rendered":"Gravitas Unveiled: Strategies for Leaders to Command, Respect and Influence"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"bsf_rt_marker\"><\/div>\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"14699\" class=\"elementor elementor-14699\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-44ec840 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"44ec840\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bf95ca9 elementor-widget 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data-id=\"041bfe5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Gravitas and Your Executive Presence<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-47621df elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"47621df\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>I&#8217;ve learned that the term <strong><em>Executive Presence<\/em><\/strong> means different things to different people at different places. Your Executive Presence exists in the <i>minds of the beholders<\/i>.\u00a0 It&#8217;s about perceptions.\u00a0 And negative perceptions begin when others observe a variety of behaviors and attributes that include:\u00a0<\/p><ul><li>Inattention to important details:\u00a0 This can be perceived as sloppiness.<\/li><li>Lack of assertiveness &#8211; low participation in meetings<\/li><li>Presentation stage fright.\u00a0\u00a0<\/li><\/ul><h3>The Gravitas Component<\/h3><h4>What is Gravitas?<\/h4><div class=\"sub-content-thread\">As defined bythe <a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/gravitas\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Cambridge Dictionary<\/a><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3c3a2e9 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"3c3a2e9\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4f7df14 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4f7df14\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"gBoaXb sxr04b\"><div class=\"kVF6d\"><div class=\"MiCl6d\"><h4 class=\"JgzqYd RES9jf xWMiCc\"><span data-dobid=\"hdw\">grav\u00b7i\u00b7tas<\/span><\/h4><\/div><div><span class=\"wHYlTd\">\/\u02c8\u0261rav\u0259\u02cct\u00e4s\/<\/span><\/div><div class=\"K6GhFd\" data-is-bilingual=\"false\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><div class=\"b8aKlc\"><div class=\"S5TwIf\"><i><span class=\"YrbPuc\">noun<\/span><\/i><\/div><div><blockquote><div class=\"sub-content-thread\"><strong><em>Seriousness and importance of manner, causing feelings of respect and trust in others.<\/em><\/strong><\/div><\/blockquote><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9964d96 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"9964d96\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-392ebcd elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"392ebcd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"656\" height=\"761\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/Gravitas2.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-14728\" alt=\"Gravitas Cloud\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/Gravitas2.jpg 656w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/Gravitas2-259x300.jpg 259w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/Gravitas2-129x150.jpg 129w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 656px) 100vw, 656px\" title=\"\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-258dff4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"258dff4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h3><em>To <strong>Have<\/strong>, You Must <strong>Become<\/strong><\/em><\/h3><p>To develop your <strong><em>Gravitas<\/em><\/strong>, you must <em><strong>become<\/strong><\/em> a leader with the attributes in the image above.\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a2aee1d e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"a2aee1d\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-454dafc elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"454dafc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Who Needs Gravitas?<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cccee86 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"cccee86\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Looking at the definition&#8217;s outcomes for gravitas, leaders who have it get more <strong><em>respect<\/em> <\/strong>and <strong><em>trust <\/em><\/strong>than those who lack it.\u00a0 What leader wouldn&#8217;t want more respect and trust?<\/p><p>Considering the three factors above: <b>Inattention to important details<\/b>, <b>Lack of assertiveness<\/b>, and <b>Presentation Fear, and<\/b>\u00a0their effect on a leader&#8217;s <em style=\"font-weight: bold;\">Executive Presence<\/em>, developing your gravitas will serve to reduce others&#8217; skepticism.\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a19ddff e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"a19ddff\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d434cbe e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"d434cbe\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0d08cc9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"0d08cc9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Developing Your Gravitas<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f6dfa68 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f6dfa68\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4><strong>Cultivating Confidence and Authority<\/strong><\/h4><p>You develop confidence from the <i>inside out<\/i>.\u00a0 It&#8217;s a product of your belief system.\u00a0 If you&#8217;re strapped with limiting beliefs your confidence will suffer.\u00a0 If you believe you can fake it, you&#8217;ve just discovered a belief you need to address.\u00a0 How do you work on enhancing your confidence?\u00a0 My biased answer is to work with a coach who has a holistic approach to leadership development.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p><h4><strong>Effective Communication<\/strong><\/h4><ul><li>It&#8217;s important to be clear and concise in your communication. Avoid getting into the weeds.<\/li><li>Your non-verbal cues and body language can say more than your words.\u00a0 How aware are you of your non-verbal messaging?\u00a0 Things like:<ul><li>Facial Expressions<\/li><li>Posture<\/li><li>Clothing &#8211; To what extent do you dress for your role?<\/li><li>Attentiveness: How well do you listen?\u00a0 <a href=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/whats-listener-rating\/\"><strong>READ MORE<\/strong><\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e3cd252 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e3cd252\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-69e0e7a elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"69e0e7a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/472dda23-19bc-4143-a21e-f7f404cf817b.webp\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-14312\" alt=\"Woman Leader\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/472dda23-19bc-4143-a21e-f7f404cf817b.webp 640w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/472dda23-19bc-4143-a21e-f7f404cf817b-300x200.webp 300w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/472dda23-19bc-4143-a21e-f7f404cf817b-150x100.webp 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" title=\"\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9440d56 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"9440d56\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-de34ccc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"de34ccc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4><strong>Demonstrating Emotional Intelligence<\/strong><\/h4><ul><li>Empathy and understanding in leadership<\/li><li>Handling challenging situations with grace<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-45d1843 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"45d1843\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Get Serious!?!<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b8aab26 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b8aab26\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4>Do you really need to be a more serious person?\u00a0<\/h4><p>It depends.\u00a0<\/p><p>If you&#8217;re an over-the-top, no-nonsense leader, perhaps not.\u00a0 But, how well can you read the room?\u00a0 What might overdeveloped gravitas do to morale?\u00a0 Seriousness alone does not give you gravitas.\u00a0 How well-developed are your empathy skills?\u00a0<\/p><p>If you&#8217;re <strong>not<\/strong> an over-the-top, no-nonsense type the perceptions of your Executive Presence will likely benefit from the crash course in Transactional Analysis below.\u00a0<\/p><p>Do you sense that you need to be taken more seriously by those you lead?\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p><p>It&#8217;s important to take results and outcomes seriously. It&#8217;s less important to take yourself seriously.\u00a0<\/p><h4>Be Genuine!<\/h4><p>Respect and trust must be earned.\u00a0 Seeking to shortcut the process can actually prolong or damage your cause.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4cfd099 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"4cfd099\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ce57241 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"ce57241\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d89dc8f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d89dc8f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Transactional Analysis Crash Course<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f249ed4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f249ed4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Awareness of Transactional Analysis can help you avoid being over-the-top with an overly serious approach to communication.\u00a0 So here&#8217;s a quick overview.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3db47b4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3db47b4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h3><strong>Understanding Ego States: Parent, Adult, and Child<\/strong><\/h3><p>In Transactional Analysis, individuals operate from one of three ego states: Parent, Adult, and Child. These ego states serve as psychological frameworks that influence behavior and communication.<\/p><p><strong>1. Parent Ego State:<\/strong> The Parent ego state is akin to the ingrained lessons and values we&#8217;ve internalized from our caregivers and authority figures. It manifests in behaviors that mirror parental responses, ranging from nurturing and caring to strict and authoritative. When in the Parent ego state, individuals may offer guidance, set boundaries, or provide support based on learned experiences.<\/p><p><strong>2. Adult Ego State:<\/strong> The Adult ego state represents a rational and objective approach to situations. It embodies the capacity for independent, critical thinking, free from emotional biases or preconceptions. When in the Adult ego state, individuals engage in logical analysis, make decisions based on facts, and communicate clearly and directly.<\/p><p><strong>3. Child Ego State:<\/strong> The Child ego state reflects our emotional and instinctual reactions, often rooted in early experiences and feelings. This state can encompass both playful, spontaneous behavior and more vulnerable, dependent responses. When in the Child ego state, individuals may express curiosity, joy, or vulnerability, or they may exhibit behaviors associated with frustration or fear.<\/p><p><strong>Influence on Behavior and Communication:<\/strong> The dominant ego state at any given moment profoundly impacts how we perceive and respond to the world. Understanding these states allows us to recognize patterns in our behavior and gain insight into how we interact with others. For instance, when communicating from the Parent ego state, one may take on a nurturing or authoritative tone. The Adult ego state enables clear, factual communication, while the Child ego state may evoke emotions, spontaneity, or vulnerability.<\/p><p>By recognizing and consciously shifting between these ego states, individuals can enhance their self-awareness and improve their interactions with others. This awareness facilitates more effective communication, decision-making, and relationship-building, both personally and in leadership roles.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6417833 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"6417833\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fff25c1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"fff25c1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Transactional Analysis Resources<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dec6892 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"dec6892\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3YdQlJg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/m.media-amazon.com\/images\/I\/51UEDyZ1i1L._SY445_SX342_.jpg\" title=\"\" alt=\"Games People Play\" loading=\"lazy\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-de7633a e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"de7633a\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-de032d5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"de032d5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Simplified TA through Awareness and Reflection<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-388bfa7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"388bfa7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul><li>Understand that we all move in and out of each of the three ego states:\u00a0 Parent, Adult, and child.\u00a0 As I&#8217;m writing and you&#8217;re reading this, you&#8217;re likely in the rational and objective <strong>adult ego state<\/strong>.\u00a0<\/li><\/ul><p>For example, there are ways of moving you out of adult state and into the child state.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p><ul><li>Moving to the child state myself by injecting humor.\u00a0 If I&#8217;m successful, I might move you to <strong>child<\/strong> mode with me.<\/li><li>Moving into the <strong>parent<\/strong> state. Perhaps with admonishing advice to trigger a defensive reaction. This would potentially move you into the child state with a defensive, negative reaction.<\/li><\/ul><p><strong><em>Each of the three ego states can serve a purpose. Until it doesn&#8217;t.\u00a0 <\/em><\/strong>So the effectiveness of each state is highly situational.\u00a0<\/p><h4>Applying Transactional Analysis to Develop Gravitas<\/h4><p>For your important interactions:<\/p><ul><li>Determine the states of the people in your interaction.\u00a0 It&#8217;s a multiple-choice question with three simple choices.<\/li><li>Determine what state you need to move into in order to get to the desired outcome.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/li><\/ul><p>For rational decision-making to occur, you eventually need to have <strong>adult-to-adult<\/strong> conversations.\u00a0 And, you can&#8217;t move others into the adult ego state without having the gravitas to go there first.\u00a0 You need to be <i>serious <\/i>without being <i>parental<\/i>.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-00d8492 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"00d8492\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cd6ca17 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"cd6ca17\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">More Gravatis Resources<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-161de78 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"161de78\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul><li>HBR Article:\u00a0\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/hbr.org\/2020\/09\/gravitas-is-a-quality-you-can-develop\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Gravitas Is a Quality You Can Develop<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/blindsided-by-bad-business-behavior\/\">Blindsided By Bad Business Behavior?<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/executive-presence-whats-your-attitude\/\">Executive Presence: What\u2019s Your Attitude?<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.forbes.com\/sites\/forbescoachescouncil\/2023\/03\/09\/how-to-use-transactional-analysis-to-discover-your-authentic-self\/?sh=4622e1267d0d\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">How To Use Transactional Analysis To Discover Your Authentic Self<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-02eb851 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"02eb851\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2f114bb elementor-widget elementor-widget-template\" data-id=\"2f114bb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"template.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-template\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"section\" data-elementor-id=\"12414\" class=\"elementor elementor-12414\" data-elementor-post-type=\"elementor_library\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4071460 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"4071460\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1a4707e e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"1a4707e\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Gravitas and Your Executive Presence I&#8217;ve learned that the term Executive Presence means different things to different people at different places. 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