{"id":1578,"date":"2012-05-01T21:50:51","date_gmt":"2012-05-02T02:50:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/?p=1578"},"modified":"2024-05-27T13:36:52","modified_gmt":"2024-05-27T18:36:52","slug":"whats-in-your-rear-view-mirror","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/whats-in-your-rear-view-mirror\/","title":{"rendered":"What&#8217;s in Your Rear View Mirror?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"bsf_rt_marker\"><\/div>\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1578\" class=\"elementor elementor-1578\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-414d96b elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"414d96b\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container 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It&#8217;s an effective tool for attitude development in times of distress.\u00a0 As you work to &#8220;drive on&#8221; from past pitfalls, remember:<\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>You&#8217;re goals are best served by looking through your windshield than your rear view mirror.<\/strong><\/p><h3>No One is Immune<\/h3><p>Life has a way of occasionally serving up catastrophes. It happens in both our personal and professional lives. \u00a0 We all eventually lose a loved one, a job, a partner, key customer or asset. Since we&#8217;re human, catastrophic events can easily become all-consuming and potentially paralyzing.\u00a0 When there&#8217;s <strong><em>something going on<\/em><\/strong>, you&#8217;re impaired and thereby less talented.\u00a0 You can not fully regain your faculties until you&#8217;re past it.\u00a0 As emotional beings, we need to process these things. The emotional healing process needs to run its course. If you&#8217;re aware of this need, you can hasten the process.<\/p><h3><strong><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright\" style=\"margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;\" title=\"dacoach2\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/dacoach2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"168\" height=\"168\"><\/strong>Words of Wisdom From <em>Da Coach<\/em><\/h3><p>In 1992, the Chicago Bears fired Mike Ditka, their iconic head football coach. &#8220;Da Coach&#8217;s&#8221; fanatic fans were distraught. As for Mike Ditka, he lost the dream job that he worked tirelessly to gain and maintain. Yet in the face of this life altering event, Coach Ditka shared four words of wisdom as he addressed the media: <em><strong>&#8220;This too, shall pass.&#8221; <\/strong><\/em>By &#8220;this&#8221;, he refereed to the emotions inherent with setback events like anger, bitterness, despair, vindictiveness, frustration, disappointment, regret, etc.. <em><strong><br \/><\/strong><\/em><\/p><h3>The Rear View Mirror Metaphor<\/h3><p>With those four words, &#8220;<em>Da Coach<\/em>&#8221; was telling both himself and his disappointed fans that if you view this event in the rear view mirror, it might loom large now. But in time, the image will get smaller. And for everyone to move on they must make a conscious effort to allow the image of adversity to shrink over time.<\/p><p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft\" title=\"RVmirror\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/RVmirror.jpg\" alt=\"Rear View Mirror\" width=\"216\" height=\"142\" \/>We all have different time tables for overcoming emotions connected to our catastrophes. Imagining the image of the event in the rear view mirror shrinking over time can really help. Perhaps the image never fully disappears. But it helps to be aware that as time passes we need to move on. To paraphrase Ditka, &#8220;This too <strong><em>must<\/em><\/strong> pass&#8221;. We eventually need to free ourselves from the emotions that potentially paralyze us from moving forward. The best way to shrink that rear view image is to change your focus from the mirror by asking&#8230;<\/p><h3><strong><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-1580\" title=\"windshield\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/windshield.jpg\" alt=\"windshield\" width=\"224\" height=\"155\" \/><\/strong><\/h3><h3>\u00a0<\/h3><h3>What&#8217;s in Your Windshield?<\/h3><p>Navigating life&#8217;s challenges IS like driving a car. You need to devote most of your attention looking through your windshield to safely reach your destination. If you&#8217;re distracted by long lingering looks in the rear view mirror, you can set yourself up for more adversity.<\/p><h3>Ask Yourself&#8230;<\/h3><ul><li>Are there losses or setback that you&#8217;ve allowed to linger in your rear view mirror?<\/li><li>Have you allowed yourself to become a distracted driver? 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