{"id":2077,"date":"2012-08-10T14:47:48","date_gmt":"2012-08-10T20:47:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/?p=2077"},"modified":"2024-10-30T15:20:05","modified_gmt":"2024-10-30T20:20:05","slug":"is-talking-overrated","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/is-talking-overrated\/","title":{"rendered":"Is Talking Overrated?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"bsf_rt_marker\"><\/div>\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"2077\" class=\"elementor elementor-2077\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-8a86375 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"8a86375\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div 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class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-33 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-70a0327\" data-id=\"70a0327\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-228f411 elementor-widget elementor-widget-theme-post-featured-image elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"228f411\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"theme-post-featured-image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/elementor\/thumbs\/wait2-qon9inq8keulsga8g6uzps4cpfxa64tbzyqp0mqtxc.jpg\" title=\"wait2\" alt=\"WAIT\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-97b436e e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"97b436e\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-53e03db e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"53e03db\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a540e60 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a540e60\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">\u201cSeek First to Understand. Then to be Understood.\u201d\n<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5f9c593 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"5f9c593\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1208c2b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1208c2b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>That is\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.stephencovey.com\/7habits\/7habits-habit5.php\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Habit #5<\/a>\u00a0of\u00a0<em>The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People<\/em>\u00a0by the late Stephen R. Covey. We all pursue our own best interests. So when you\u2019re communicating with another person, why not concede that the other person will always be number one in their mind. The best you can hope for is #2. If you don\u2019t understand the other person\u2019s interests, your talk is mere noise. Contrary to the book\u2019s advise, most people communicate with a\u00a0<strong><em>shoot first and ask questions later<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0approach.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-64b3250 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"64b3250\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">If it Were Easy, Everyone Would Do It\n<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c12a295 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c12a295\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>God gave us two ears and only one mouth. But we can\u2019t still take the hint. Companies seek to hire sales people who have \u201cthe gift of gab\u201d. Pity their poor prospects as that \u201cgift\u201d is also a\u00a0<em>curse<\/em>. I know. I am a certified \u201cgifted gabber\u201d myself. My DISC\/behavior profile shows that I am a\u00a0<em>\u201cpeople orientated extrovert<\/em>\u201d (high \u201cI\u201d). I\u2019m un-phased by public speaking or even Karaoke. Imagine my struggle with Covey\u2019s Habit #5! To address it, I practice\u00a0<strong>WAIT<\/strong>-ing.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59545ca e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"59545ca\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1f66305 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"1f66305\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3Fh30mk\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"194\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/7-habits-jpg-194x300.avif\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium wp-image-16613\" alt=\"7 habits cover\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/7-habits-jpg-194x300.avif 194w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/7-habits-jpg-97x150.avif 97w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/7-habits-jpg.avif 323w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 194px) 100vw, 194px\" title=\"\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-668838c e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"668838c\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-160f0dd elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"160f0dd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"220\" height=\"220\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/wait2.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-3822\" alt=\"WAIT\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/wait2.jpg 220w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/wait2-150x150.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 220px) 100vw, 220px\" title=\"\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1192efc elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"1192efc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"206\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/wait.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-2083\" alt=\"WAIT reminder\" title=\"\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6ab5feb e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"6ab5feb\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5158a3f elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"5158a3f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-60e83c2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"60e83c2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">WAIT! It\u2019s an Acronym\n<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9067257 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9067257\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>It\u2019s an acronym for a question that I continue to ask myself:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6a140a0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6a140a0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>W<\/strong>hy<br \/><strong>A<\/strong>m<br \/><strong>I<\/strong><br \/><strong>T<\/strong>alking?<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a8913e7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a8913e7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>You can see my\u00a0<strong>WAIT<\/strong>\u00a0reminder sign in the photo. There\u2019s no telling how many times it has saved me from stepping on others\u2019 thoughts.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6af7e85 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"6af7e85\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2618716 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"2618716\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a952a15 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a952a15\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">So Why Are YOU Talking?<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6bbf21a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6bbf21a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>More specifically: Why are you talking out of turn?<\/p><ul><li>Is it because you lack a curious mindset?<\/li><li>Are you disinterested in the other person\u2019s perspective and interests?<\/li><li>Are you unaware of how repelling you appear to others when you\u2019re pontificating?<\/li><li>Are your questioning and listening skills lacking?<\/li><li>All of the above?<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5dbadfd e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"5dbadfd\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-11ed5a7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"11ed5a7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Listen to This<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f3ac255 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f3ac255\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">\u201cBe a good listener.\nYour ears will never get you in trouble.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6966b7a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6966b7a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\u2013 Frank Tyger<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fa48ffd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"fa48ffd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>While you work to improve your listening, consider creating your own W.A.I.T. sign.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4ce226b6 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4ce226b6\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-56cf8851\" data-id=\"56cf8851\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-14cf4c8d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"14cf4c8d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h3>Just Asking&#8230;<\/h3><p>As you work to be considered a good listener, how important is it for you to be a good <strong><em>questioner<\/em><\/strong>? How well can you <em>seek to understand<\/em> if you haven&#8217;t learned to effectively <em><strong>ask<\/strong><\/em>?<\/p><h3>How Do I Become a Better &#8220;Ask-er&#8221;?<\/h3><p>Thanks for asking?\u00a0 Here&#8217;s more:<\/p><ul><li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/why-should-you-be-asking-more-and-telling-less\/\">Why Should You Be Asking More and Telling Less?<\/a><\/strong><\/li><li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/vista-development.com\/cutting-edge-leadership-ancient-greece\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Cutting Edge Leadership from Ancient Greece<\/a><\/strong><\/li><li><strong><a title=\"Regaining Your Childlike Curiosity\" href=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/regaining-your-childlike-curiosity\/\">Regaining Your Childlike Curiosity<\/a><\/strong><\/li><\/ul><hr \/><h3>&#8220;Seek to Understand&#8221; Trivia<\/h3><p>The concept that became Covey&#8217;s Habit #5 was first shared in the 13th century by St. Francis of Assisi in <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Prayer_of_Saint_Francis\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">this simple, yet powerful prayer<\/a>.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Seek First to Understand.  Then to be Understood.&#8221; is Habit #5 of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by the late Stephen R. Covey.  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