{"id":3300,"date":"2013-08-06T13:00:17","date_gmt":"2013-08-06T18:00:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/?p=3300"},"modified":"2025-01-23T09:26:23","modified_gmt":"2025-01-23T15:26:23","slug":"victimville","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/victimville\/","title":{"rendered":"Welcome to Victimville: Are You a Visitor or a Resident?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"bsf_rt_marker\"><\/div>\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"3300\" class=\"elementor elementor-3300\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-e4a2e77 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"e4a2e77\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container 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The best way to make your pursuit more effective is to avoid Victimville.<\/p><h3><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/victimville-360x198.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"360\" height=\"198\" title=\"\">Where is Victimville?<\/h3><p>Victimville is located between your left and right ears. It&#8217;s a state of mind.<\/p><p>It&#8217;s best defined with the concept that people can placed in one of two categories:<\/p><ol><li><strong>Creators<\/strong>: Those who make things happen<\/li><li><strong>Victims<\/strong>: Those who make excuses and blame others when things don&#8217;t happen<\/li><\/ol><p>If we&#8217;re aware of this concept, most people would easily choose to avoid adopting the victim mindset. Our challenge is that we usually aren&#8217;t aware. Our environment makes it easy to exit the <em>Creator Road<\/em> and get diverted to <em>Victimville<\/em>.<\/p><h3>A Not-So-Foreign Language: <em>Victimese<\/em><\/h3><p>One way to recognize that you&#8217;ve arrived in Victimville is hearing the official language: <strong><em>Victimese<\/em><\/strong>. It is a language peppered with phrases like <em>&#8220;It&#8217;s not my fault&#8221;<\/em>, <em>&#8220;We&#8217;ve always done it that way.&#8221;<\/em> and <em>&#8220;It&#8217;s not fair&#8221;. <\/em><\/p><p><a href=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/are-you-playing-the-blame-game\/\">Read more about victim vocabulary.<\/a><em><br \/><\/em><\/p><h3>Simple, Not Easy<\/h3><p>To avoid getting stuck in that Exit Only lane to Victimville, you must make a daily conscious effort to stay the course.<\/p><p>Executive Coach and best-selling author, Marshall Goldsmith, has a way to avoid this damaging diversion. He offers six self-awareness questions for maintaining the mindset of a <em>creator<\/em>. He advocates using them at the end of each day to ask yourself:<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-3307 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/index-card-checklist.jpg\" alt=\"index-card-checklist\" width=\"500\" height=\"300\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/index-card-checklist.jpg 500w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/index-card-checklist-300x180.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/p><p>After your daily review, ask yourself one more:<\/p><blockquote><p><strong>What would\/should you do differently?<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote><p>Commit those answers to writing.<\/p><p>Research proves that this technique is guaranteed to make a significant difference in your results and your level of happiness. That&#8217;s the good news.<\/p><h3>The Bad News<\/h3><p>Our egos get in the way of our ability to stick with the program by committing to maintain this productive new tactic by making it an actual habit. Do you have what it takes to commit to your own happiness? If you&#8217;re realistic, you&#8217;ll discover that we all need help and support with this.<\/p><h3><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/1401301304?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=vistadevel-20&amp;link_code=as3&amp;camp=211189&amp;creative=373489&amp;creativeASIN=1401301304\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com\/images\/I\/51JzP+-FYtL._SL160_.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"105\" height=\"160\" title=\"\"><\/a>Related Resources<\/h3><ul><li><a title=\"Are You Playing The Blame Game?\" href=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/are-you-playing-the-blame-game\/\">Are You Playing The Blame Game?<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.marshallgoldsmithlibrary.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The Marshall Goldsmith Library<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Victimville is located between your left and right ears.  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