{"id":7910,"date":"2021-04-18T06:23:20","date_gmt":"2021-04-18T11:23:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/?p=7910"},"modified":"2024-10-17T12:49:58","modified_gmt":"2024-10-17T17:49:58","slug":"touchy-feely-experiences","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/touchy-feely-experiences\/","title":{"rendered":"Avoiding Touchy-Feely"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"bsf_rt_marker\"><\/div>\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"7910\" class=\"elementor elementor-7910\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-740c59f elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"740c59f\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container 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\/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-af78af2 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"af78af2\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-24f140e\" data-id=\"24f140e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d4f4522 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d4f4522\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>I once had a new coaching client begin our engagement with this intriguing request.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e0de70d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e0de70d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h3><em>&#8220;I don&#8217;t want this to get touchy-feely.&#8221;\u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/h3>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-118d90f elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"118d90f\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-ecdeb58\" data-id=\"ecdeb58\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-20c62bc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"20c62bc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>On the surface, this is a potential challenge for a leadership coach.\u00a0 One of the most important aspects of a coach-client relationship is <strong><em>connection<\/em><\/strong>.\u00a0 Does that mean getting <em>touchy-feely<\/em>?\u00a0 It depends on what that term really means to the person making request.\u00a0 There are similarities between a coach&#8217;s role and a leader&#8217;s role. So let&#8217;s take a closer look at the possible rewards and consequences with a<em> touchy-feely<\/em> approach to communication.\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f906fac elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f906fac\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The Touchy Approach<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b27ec77 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b27ec77\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>I have no issue steering clear of the <strong><em>touchy<\/em> <\/strong>part. The touchy part was always out-of-bounds for me. In fact, interactions via video conferencing have proven to be highly effective without handshakes or fist bumps.\u00a0 Between the <a href=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/handshakes-hugs-kisses-metoo-greeting-mishap-guidelines\/\">Me-Too movement<\/a> and the Pandemic, there&#8217;s justifiably more resistance to touching than ever.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p><p>But, be careful about using the term <em><strong>touchy-feely<\/strong><\/em> to bundle the two approaches in an attempt to avoid either.\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-694145e elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"694145e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The Feely Approach<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6abbfc1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6abbfc1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>As for the <strong><em>feely<\/em><\/strong> part I wonder:\u00a0 Is this a request to take the topic of <strong><em>emotions<\/em> <\/strong>off the table completely?<\/p><p>If we understand that all decisions are inherently emotional, how do you conduct a coaching engagement without helping the leader gain clarity about the <strong>emotional<\/strong> component of <strong><em>decision making<\/em><\/strong>.\u00a0 \u00a0How can you effectively lead?<\/p><p>Is this also a request to avoid feeling <em><strong>uncomfortable<\/strong><\/em>?\u00a0 That&#8217;s another obstacle to becoming a better leader.\u00a0 If you&#8217;re not willing to experience uncomfortable discussions with your coach, you may be un-coachable.\u00a0 \u00a0Do you have a habit of avoiding uncomfortable discussions with those you lead? If so, how can you hold them accountable?<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4701c14 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4701c14\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-203353d\" data-id=\"203353d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4698a00 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4698a00\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">How Does a Coach or Leader Approach Touchy-Feely?\u00a0 \u00a0<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4ae1b95 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4ae1b95\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>There are good reasons for someone to say they want to avoid <em>touchy-feely<\/em>.\u00a0 I would first seek to <em>understand and respect the request. <\/em>Something about you or their view of the situation triggered it. This is an opportunity to <i>lead by example<\/i> and demonstrate <em><strong>empathy<\/strong><\/em>.\u00a0 \u00a0Try to understand how the other person feels.\u00a0 There is likely some form of <strong><em>fear<\/em> <\/strong>in play based on past experience.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p><p>Another part of understanding the request is to <i>define <\/i>the term &#8220;<strong><em>touchy-feely&#8221;<\/em><\/strong>.\u00a0 I pasted <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thefreedictionary.com\/touchy-feely\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">the Free Dictionary definition<\/a> below.\u00a0 But terms and\/or labels like this can have meanings and connotations that go beyond dictionary definitions.\u00a0 So it&#8217;s important gain clarity through empathy by learning:\u00a0\u00a0<\/p><ul><li>How does the person define the term?\u00a0<\/li><li>What is the person trying to avoid?\u00a0 And why?<\/li><li>What previous experience(s) have led to this request?<\/li><li>Is there a physical teambuilding horror story in the past that should never be repeated?<\/li><li>What boundaries should be set for future interactions?\u00a0<\/li><\/ul><p>Armed with this insight along with mutual agreement about the importance of the leader&#8217;s desired outcomes, we determine what makes sense in terms of our interaction.\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-bfec7d5 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"bfec7d5\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-a09a6d5\" data-id=\"a09a6d5\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-d18e267 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"d18e267\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-66 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-6a926f6\" data-id=\"6a926f6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f0fd71e elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f0fd71e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Touchy-Feely Definition<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-771779d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"771779d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thefreedictionary.com\/touchy-feely\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">touch\u00b7y-feel\u00b7y<\/a><\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c736528 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c736528\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span class=\"pron\">(t\u016dch\u2032\u0113-f\u0113\u2032l\u0113)<\/span><\/p><div class=\"pseg\"><p><i><span class=\"hvr\">adj.<\/span><\/i>\u00a0<i><span class=\"hvr\">Informal<\/span><\/i><\/p><ol><li><strong>Marked by or emphasizing physical closeness and emotional openness<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Based on sentiment or intuition, especially to the exclusion of critical judgment<\/strong><\/li><\/ol><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e54394a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e54394a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span class=\"hvr\">American Heritage\u00ae Dictionary of the English Language, Fifth Edition. Copyright \u00a9 2016 by Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company.\u00a0 All rights reserved.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-33 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-f3ceb09\" data-id=\"f3ceb09\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0c5353f elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"0c5353f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<figure class=\"wp-caption\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"424\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/Hug3.png\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-9246\" alt=\"Hug\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/Hug3.png 300w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/Hug3-212x300.png 212w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/Hug3-106x150.png 106w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" title=\"\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<figcaption class=\"widget-image-caption wp-caption-text\">Touchy<\/figcaption>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6dfd784 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"6dfd784\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Definition Breakdown<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-94c80aa elementor-section-content-middle elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"94c80aa\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-ca4d0d5\" data-id=\"ca4d0d5\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d179cf7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d179cf7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Deal Makers <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7d88893 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7d88893\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><em><strong>Emotional Openness:<\/strong><\/em> As long as it serves both parties<\/p><p><strong><em>Based on sentiment or intuition:<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0 Trusting your gut can be valuable.\u00a0 Trusting sentiment requires awareness of when emotions might take over..\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e4729b2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"e4729b2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Deal Breakers<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4bc338e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4bc338e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><em><strong>Emphasizing Physical Closeness:\u00a0<\/strong><\/em> For what purpose?\u00a0 What are the risks?<\/p><p><em><strong>To the Exclusion of Critical Judgment: <\/strong><\/em>Loose cannon behavior is highly discouraged.\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-33cd68d\" data-id=\"33cd68d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-899f930 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"899f930\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<figure class=\"wp-caption\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"624\" height=\"416\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/listening.jpg\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-9268\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/listening.jpg 624w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/listening-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/listening-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 624px) 100vw, 624px\" title=\"\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<figcaption class=\"widget-image-caption wp-caption-text\">Feely<\/figcaption>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-791065c elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"791065c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-32507ba elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"32507ba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4>Use the Makers.\u00a0 Drop the Breakers<\/h4><p>The <strong><em>touchy-feely<\/em><\/strong> approach as defined above has potential pitfalls. I&#8217;ve listed them as <em>Deal Breakers.<\/em> At the same time I work to gain permission to lead discussions to utilize <em>Deal Maker<\/em> aspects of <strong><em>purposeful emotional openness<\/em><\/strong> and understanding the value of <strong><em>trusting your gut<\/em><\/strong>.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-755c312 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"755c312\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-3741d40\" data-id=\"3741d40\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ef0e06 elementor-section-content-middle elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ef0e06\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-66 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-be6b837\" data-id=\"be6b837\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7c04ec7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"7c04ec7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Embracing the Uncomfortable<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bac529e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bac529e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>A leader is much less likely to develop new skill sets and mindsets while comfortable with the status quo.\u00a0 When things are feeling good, why change?\u00a0 \u00a0An effective coach needs to <strong><em>facilitate the uncomfortable<\/em><\/strong>. If not, how will development occur?<\/p><p><i><b>Touchy <\/b><\/i>moments are neither required or desirable.\u00a0 But <b><i>feeling <\/i><\/b>uncomfortable with the status quo is highly recommended when improvement is the mutual goal. But we need to getting <em><strong>feely<\/strong> <\/em>with a green light (mutual consent or understanding).\u00a0 Running a red light will derail the discussion.\u00a0 .\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-33 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-1a5bce9\" data-id=\"1a5bce9\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-edbec8c elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"edbec8c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"197\" height=\"247\" src=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/green-light-CC.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium wp-image-9312\" alt=\"Green Light\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/green-light-CC.png 197w, https:\/\/chicagoexecutivecoaching.com\/smartleadership\/wp-content\/uploads\/green-light-CC-120x150.png 120w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 197px) 100vw, 197px\" title=\"\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2fca943 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2fca943\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The Myth of Vulnerability<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-52e235c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"52e235c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>We still find old school, macho orientated cultures where displaying any sign of weakness will hinder your career path.\u00a0 But <em><strong>emotional intelligence<\/strong><\/em> and authenticity continue to become a more valued leadership attributes.\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7257e41 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"7257e41\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">What's the Opposite of Emotional Intelligence?\u00a0<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7a11d33 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7a11d33\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>\u00a0 Clinically it&#8217;s &#8220;<strong><em>low EQ<\/em><\/strong>&#8220;.\u00a0 \u00a0In plain talk, might we might call it <em><strong>emotional ignorance<\/strong><\/em>?\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/p><p>We will always need to have tactical and strategic management discussions.\u00a0\u00a0But as leaders how long is is possible to deny that we&#8217;re working with other emotionally driven human beings and act accordingly?<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3ad36a4 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3ad36a4\" 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data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In my coaching role, I typically have both permission and a duty to explorer the <strong><em>feely<\/em><\/strong> as needed. 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One of the most important aspects of a coach-client relationship is connection.  Does connection require getting touchy-feely?  It depends on what that term really means to the person making request.  There are similarities between a coach&#8217;s role and a leader&#8217;s role. 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