Aren't We All?
I won’t bury the lead here. The answer is YES. We all sabotage our happiness to some degree. So the important questions are:
How is this happening?
How do I stop?
We don’t need behavioral scientific proof to know that happiness is a state of mind.
We’re happy when we spend:
More time feeling positive
Less time feeling negative
As with so many simple concepts, It’s not easy. The solution lies in developing and maintaining your Mental Fitness.
A starting point toward developing your Mental Fitness is gaining awareness of how we negatively judge. More specifically, how we negatively judge. Negative judgements come in three categories.
- Negatively Judging Ourselves,
- Negatively Judging Others
- Negative judgement of circumstances.
For this post let’s focus on negatively judging our situation.
Judging Your Circumstances
How would you fill in the blank below?
“I will be happy when ______________”
What happens when you fill in this blank? You’re working on the assumption that the item in the blank is your condition for being happy. You’re making a negative judgement about your current situation.
Check Up From the Neck Up
When you find yourself creating your condition for happiness, ask yourself…
If you challenge your assumption that you can’t be happy now, what’s possible?
“Change The Way You Look At Things And The Things You Look At Change.”
– Wayne Dyer