Lessons from A Lost Loved One

With a heavy heart, I share the news that my Mom passed away on New Year’s Day. Catherine Lemanski was 87.  She led a full, long and happy life.  She peacefully fell asleep and didn’t wake up.

Lessons Learned

I learned some lessons in the process of losing my Mom.  Let me share two of them.

Know Your Limitations

As her funeral approached, I knew that my emotions would prevent me from standing up to speak to the congregation. But I needed to share my tribute.  So I practiced what I preach. I partially delegated the delivery of my tribute to a long time friend and accomplished speaker who eloquently delivered the heartfelt words that I prepared the night before.

Should you find yourself in that situation, I highly recommend the phone-a-friend approach.  It honors both your friend and your loved one.  Isn’t that what friends and loved ones are for?

My Fortunate Farewell

As I wrote in my funeral tribute…

For all that is good, considerate, generous, caring and thoughtful about me: I credit and thank you.

Call me a momma’s boy, if you want. I’m okay with that.  The last words Mom heard from me were…

“I love you!”

While I regret that I didn’t say those words to her enough, I sleep better knowing I closed on a high note.

I admit that I’ve historically held back from using those three words. If you do too, ask yourself:

Is my reluctance a sign of strength? Or a weakness? 

With that, I urge you to be strong enough to demonstrate you genuinely care.  You won’t regret it.

Shower The People You Love With Love

I can’t express it better than the message in this James Taylor song. So I’ll delegate that also. This live version is special.