Here’s a challenge for you:
On a scale of 1 to 10 (ten the best), how would you rate your personal commitment to being happy?
If we’re honest with ourselves, most of us would like our number to be higher. The best way to make your pursuit more effective is to avoid Victimville.
Where is Victimville?Victimville is located between your left and right ears. It’s a state of mind.
It’s best defined with the concept that people can placed in one of two categories:
If we’re aware of this concept, most people would easily choose to avoid adopting the victim mindset. Our challenge is that we usually aren’t aware. Our environment makes it easy to exit the Creator Road and get diverted to Victimville.
One way to recognize that you’ve arrived in Victimville is hearing the official language: Victimese. It is a language peppered with phrases like “It’s not my fault”, “We’ve always done it that way.” and “It’s not fair”.
Read more about victim vocabulary.
To avoid getting stuck in that Exit Only lane to Victimville, you must make a daily conscious effort to stay the course.
Executive Coach and best-selling author, Marshall Goldsmith, has a way to avoid this damaging diversion. He offers six self-awareness questions for maintaining the mindset of a creator. He advocates using them at the end of each day to ask yourself:
After your daily review, ask yourself one more:
What would/should you do differently?
Commit those answers to writing.
Research proves that this technique is guaranteed to make a significant difference in your results and your level of happiness. That’s the good news.
Our egos get in the way of our ability to stick with the program by committing to maintain this productive new tactic by making it an actual habit. Do you have what it takes to commit to your own happiness? If you’re realistic, you’ll discover that we all need help and support with this.
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Excellent ideas. I did well today on most points. But…
but?