The noun version of gossip…
Casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.
We can likely agree that most office gossip is not complimentary.
So we might label gossip as “covert diminishment.” For this discussion, here are two more detailed criteria.
While the focus here is on Office Gossip, the definitions apply for all relationships.
“Gossip is what no one claims to like, but everybody enjoys.” – Joseph Conrad
There’s a multitude of motives for gossiping. Some quick examples…
These are general reasons. A more insightful and personal question is…
Do your motives match some of the above. Or do you have other reasons?
Remember: what gets rewarded, gets repeated. If gossip is providing you with fulfillment on some level. And that fulfillment can create a blind spot for the damage you’re doing to yourself and those who you diminish.
If you’re genuinely committed to being a more effective leader, you need to be aware of when and why you’re doing it. What better way that to ask and answer this question for yourself?
Let’s answer this with some selfish questions.
Why would you so readily put your reputation at risk?
Last but not least, how are the feelings and reputations of others effected by your gossip?
This topic was inspired by the book The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership.
Ending gossip is Commitment #5, quoted below. The book goes into greater detail.
“I commit to ending gossip, talking directly to people with whom I have a concern, and encouraging others to talk directly to people with whom they have a concern. “
What are the other 14 Commitments of a Conscious Leader? Maybe you should read or listen to the book.
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A reputation is a terrible thing to squander. So you consider when and why for gossip, to heed my one word warning sign recommendation.
Without warning, the events of 2020 challenged our resiliency. We’ve all temporarily lost much of life that we took for granted. Then we discovered the temporary conditions would longer than expected to go away. This required us to summon even more resiliency. The challenge intensified. How do we get more resiliency? The answer lies in the celebration of Thanksgiving.
A check is a promise to pay. The banks hold you to your promise and enforce strict consequences for insufficient funds including bounced/returned checks, overdraft fees or even closing your account. What about your other promises?
What are “Triggers”?
There’s no denying it. We all have events that can lead to a reaction. In psychology a trigger is a stimulus; a reminder of a past experience strong enough to generate a reaction. It can be sensory; smell, a sound, an image or just familiar words. When stimulation action occurs with potential for unintended consequences.
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